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Fight for love

 

A man either lives life as it happens to him, meets it head-on and licks it,
   or he turns his back on it and starts to wither away
.

                                                                                                            -Gene Rodenberry.

Even as children, we often fantasize about Death. We learn from what we see,
and from what we learn from our parents. Usually, it all ends with religion. The
same they were taught with, and where we land if we were to sin. What they have
learnt, came from their parents, and their parent’s parents. It is all handed out,
generation to generation. All to the young ones. So, our parents are not to blame,
and certainly not the children when they see queers as a part of that ‘sin’. Why?
Why don’t they open up their minds a bit? Widen their knowledge? Oh, oh, I will
tell you W H Y. The reason is so simple yet so complex all the same.

                             F E A R.

Fear of the unknown, fear of a God that will put them to a place full of suffering if
they do not comply with His rules. As a once-Catholic, and a once-Muslim, I have
gone through every teaching the Bible and the Qu’ran have to offer. It is because of
the teachings given by their parents and these beliefs that they have faltered in loving
their own children. Just because of their sexual orientation and or gender identification?
I have witnessed my own friends kicked out by their own homes, by their own parents
because they feel romantically towards the same sex, or have a different gender identification
aside from the one they were assigned to by birth. As one of the Vulcans described God,
If this is your God, he’s not very impressive. He’s got so many psychological problems;
he’s so insecure. He demands worship every seven days. He goes out and create faulty
humans and then blames them for His own mistakes. He’s a pretty poor excuse for a supreme
being.
Vulcan, being one of the beings in the well-known science fiction Star Trek.

But this is not about religion. As a secular group, our focus is more on the pressing issues
found within our community and not religious affinities. Today, I will be discussing about
Fear and what it has done to us, to our family, to our parents, and to the entire human race.

What was passed on to our parents, that knowledge, was passed on to us. Etiquette, beliefs,
love of films, books, instruments, fascinating stories that let us go ‘ooohh’ and ‘aahh’ at every
twist and turn of those words, and finally, sermons and lectures that have deeply implanted itself
into the crevices of our hearts and minds. I often remember the lectures of my own father when
it comes to using intellect. He always said to ‘It’s all right to be brash if you have the brains for
it.’ And it’s something that I have taken into my very life, seeing that I don’t have much of the
intellect. My sister got it all. Lucky bastard.

Rounding back to my own topic, it is the fear of the unknown and the EMBEDDING that got
them hating on all these ‘poor homosexuals’. Embedding, where they got used to a certain
routine they no longer wish to change it. They are scared of what happens when something
changes. Well, that goes for fear of the unknown and fear of change. After all, change is
pretty scary. But, as nothing is permanent, change is also inevitable. Constant. Ever turning
in this cycle of life. Change occurs whether we like it or not, and the one thing I know about
Humanity, about us, is that we are NEVER ready. No one is. All we have to do is be prepared.
Be it death, be it change, be it your new house, or your new friends ( well, they seem pretty
suspicious to me, reader. I suggest you pick a new group. That lonely girl seems like a good
bet. ) you must be prepared for the worst.

The old generations, our grandma and grandpa, our mothers and fathers, they were taught what
they passed on to us. And honestly? It’s not really their fault they got used to one thing and held
on it so firmly they refused to let go. That idea settled nicely in their head, and taking it away or
just CHANGING it will confuse them more. So, what you have to do, is educate them. Nicely.
Politely. Patiently. The effort itself yields its’ own rewards.

I mean, putting this as an example, my own mother CRIED when I told her that I’m a trans male.
She cried, and cried, and I explained and explained. Let her process all the information I’m
feeding her. All she understood at that point was that I’m a lesbian, and I chuckled each time
she did. But in time, she finally got it. She realised that me being born this way wasn’t a choice. I’ve been this way since I started walking. ( I mean c’mon. Compared to my sister’s dolls that
I frequently behead, I always choose the guns and robots and the remote-c o n t r o l l e d
monster cars. Oh yeah, and the green foot soldiers too. And boxing with my cousin. ) She can’t
use the proper pronouns with my father around, but it was well worth it. It was like, this
incredibly heavy anchor on my thin chest got lifted and I got more room to breathe. I wasn’t
living a lie anymore. Me mum accepted me for who I am, ( and for the record, she said she
was just happy I’m not doing any drugs even if I look like I’m snorting cocaine every Friday
night if I’m not stealing purses. Which I’m not. I just look like one, I promise you. ) and she’s
more open with me, y’know? Like, the other day, she asked me if I was seeing someone. And
I said no. ( Hey reader, if y’wanna know me, just find me in our facebook group! c; ) And well,
she said she can’t imagine me being with a woman. Parents, huh?

But what if, for example, the child was thrown out of their own home by their own parents?
Well, anger is deeply rooted to sadness. People do bad things when they’re angry. That
doesn’t mean you have to stop loving them. Or stop teaching them. The truth is, they need
more guidance than you. Because you just took them to a whole new world and they have
no tourist. Confused, sad and regretful, it is now your job to educate them. Even if it means
you have to go through several verbal abuse. But if it’s physical or mental, just… don’t. My main
point is that all of this takes time. And for them, well, it takes a huge amount of time for them to
understand. Or perhaps, for others, their parents already knew, and they were simply waiting for
their own child to confess to them. Either way, coming out is something you have to think of way
ahead of time. Plan your pros and cons if you have really strict parents. If they’re pretty lax, well,
be like me and just be spontaneous. Buy them some ice cream, treat ‘em nice that week,
smile at them, tell them you love them no matter what, and well, tell them by the end of
the same week. Or not. It’s on you.
Maybe you could just tell them that hey, at least you’re not into cults or drugs. You’re just
into the same sex or both, y’know? Might work. Might not. Expect a lot of crying mothers and
angry fathers.

 

Take the time, always take the time, to muster enough courage to tell your parents. Even if
it takes twenty, thirty, years? Who cares. Just make sure they’re still alive. Or maybe not.
It’s your call, man. Don’t look at me. I’m just saying, take your time. If anyone pressures
you into coming out, don’t listen to them.

What you have to teach your parents, is that there’s more colours out there than just
pink and blue. There will always be fear, and the reaction to that fear might be more, or less,
but expect harsh words. For the world is a cruel one and therefore, created harsher
creatures made to adapt to such an environment. Do not fight fire with fire. It will only
ignite a bigger explosion than the ones you have started with. Instead, fight harshness
with kindness.
Just because you are kind does not mean you are weak and soft. It means
you have seen the worst in all of the world, yet still remain humane within it all. It takes a
lot to stay such in this kind of world, and THAT is being strong.

All I’m asking, is that you remain civil when explaining. Even if it’s not to your parents.
If they’re insulting you, walk away. At least you’ve got the moral upperhand.


                       Give people a second chance.

 

By Chris Eusebio.

 

Opponents of same-sex marriage are widely found in religious or conservative groups of society. Peoples tending to the so called left wing part of the population, seem to have less problems with the development of a modernizing and always changing society. Conservative peoples want to defend traditional life styles and forms, but when looking deeper into this, I find many things questionable in these thoughts.


First of all, and based on my observation, many homosexual living couples live a very conservative life. They are committed, they share a household, and even bring in children through adoption, or family tragedies, whereby the homosexual person in the family, may have been the only remaining clan member, willing to take care of the child of his or her brother or sister, that may have died unexpected. Heterosexual couples do not automatically have children, and still they enjoy the full rights and protection of “family”. It is true, that in our recent and documented history, and I am talking about several hundreds of years, couples were formed out of a man and a woman, ending up founding a family with children. Conservative peoples mostly reflect on that, as they claim, that this was the standard of our past, valid up till now. Yet our history holds more than that. In ancient Rome or Greece, same sex couples have lived a life of acceptance, free of fear and threat. If I am now following this thought, am I no longer a part of conservatism? I would or could call myself a double or extra strong conservative, as I have gone even further into our history and origins of mankind. Democracy was invented long before the churches were even a thought of human establishments. So does conservatism begin with the forming of religious institutions like Christianity?


As homosexuality is not a new time phenomena, regarding the many documentations over the last 8000 years, it is therefor not a new age temporal movement, like the “Flower Power” movement in the 70s, or the time when it was tried to raise children anti authoritarian. The monotheistic religions were, in their time of establishment, newly set up “authorities” and formations, one can even call them movements, using their power and political influence to wipe out, some at that time existing conservative life forms, declaring for example homosexuality a sin and abomination, leading into the torture, castration and killing of the unwanted minority in society. And now that religion is losing grip in many parts of the world, still opposing LGBT’s, conservatism is used to defend the “traditional family” in their words, forgetting about a tradition already existing before their declared tradition.


What we call modern nowadays reflects through technical achievements, and changes in rights established to show and action support towards all members of a countries population, but certainly not in the biological natural differences of us humans. It is not modern to be an LGBT; it may be up-to-date to discuss and grant rights to a minority. But even using up-to-date may be far taken; it is maybe a recycled up-to-date progress, as the law just gives back something to certain peoples, that they have lost hundreds or even thousands of years ago.


Pointing out majorities and minorities is also something done in arguments. Saying that because there are for example 20 million straight marriages, and maybe just 50.000 same-sex unions, it is not worth, or there is no need to give equal rights, as it just concerns “a few peoples”, is a very selfish and disregarding statement of speakers of the majority. Majorities should not forget, that minorities are the product of majorities, there acting and their sexuality. It took very long, and in some countries is still in the beginning stage, for woman to no longer be discriminated, and this is not even a minority. I carefully dare to say, that it seems, giving more rights to minorities, is not the whole issue. When it comes to minorities that majorities pity, it seems easier. Peoples with handicaps, certain sicknesses or disorders are more likely to be strengthened in their rights faster. This could be the case, because gays and lesbians, are still too often portrayed as peoples living their choice of life, forgetting that being a homosexual person, is not a matter of choice, but a natural born fact.


LGBT’s are also claimed not to value or even know family values. Family values being violated, can be observed in exactly those families that fall under the protection of law. Child abuse, violence against wives, and other situations we may think of, as we see and hear them happening. Family values are not static, to-do-list or check-list, values, as a family, in what ever form it may appear or have being formed, function in their respect and love to all members. It is certainly not the basic sexual act of a man and a woman, producing an offspring, making this family a value respecting unit. There will always be a majority, and of course it will be the most common constellation, but minorities don’t destroy majorities, as they are not even able to, regarding to their biological rareness. Religious statements, verbally punched out, saying that gays and lesbians, or the granting of same-sex marriage rights is a threat to the entire human race, is absurd, irrational and totally illogical. Absurd also, as it makes a minority, that they describe as incomplete and weak, look on the other hand strong and powerful enough, yes even having the intention maybe to destroy the human race.


I think conservative peoples should over think their position on conservatism, and rebellious or labeled “New age movement” peoples should think if their ideas are really so new or extraordinary as they promote. Our society is a mixture of conservatism and modernism, but we can’t treat our fellow humans like tools or new technology invented or developed. There are values that have been swept away or lost, by movements of the past, and our present time should find back to what makes us human, our differences, our intelligence and our biology. Human rights and with that LGBT rights are as conservative as modern; they are universal timeless rights, thrown from right to left and from left to right, giving it the label of bad or good, black or white, natural or unnatural. Even following all attempts of regimes and religions, having tried to wipe LGBT’s of the platform of our earth, they have not succeeded, leaving a path of blood and hate behind. Our human nature cannot be selectively or partially ignored or even destroyed. It is either all of us or none.

 

By Thomas Fleckner

 

 

Dear President Yoweri Museveni,

 

I am writing you out of the urge to share my views and many peoples’ opinion on what is happening in your country with regards to the criminalization of the LGBT minority in Uganda. I have lived in West Africa seven years of my life and I have learned a lot about Africa, its values, its people, their fears and ways to manage life, even secretly as a gay person.

 

Even if you lock up all existing gay people of your country, new people are born every day, and from those people, about 5% will be gay. Homosexuality is not a choice, it’s a natural fact, a minority observed in even 1500 other species worldwide. Homosexuality is observed in all races, and it is surely not an un-African issue. There are historical documentations of homosexuality during the Egyptian times 8000 years ago for example. Your fellow African countries like South Africa, Ivory Coast and Guinea Bissau are not punishing people’s sexuality. Are they un-African?

 

I fully understand that you personally may have a disgusted feeling towards homosexual people, but that is personal. By punishing someone’s nature, you are not punishing the West, but your own fellow citizens who are growing up in fear.

 

What does a homosexual person do? He or she grows up like all others; they go to school, go to work, and you may have even gay people surrounding you without you knowing it. They pay taxes, are hard workers, take care of their families, maybe some are the sole bread winners of their families. They are completely innocent people who don't steal, don't kill, don't betray nor assault others. Didn't we go through all this in the past? Isn’t the violent history of mankind enough already? If you are portraying your stance on religion, I would also have to challenge this by pointing out that your religion is even more un-African, a western import during the times of colonialism; a western implementation that you accept, but homosexuality, the one many call “western”, funny enough, is not.

 

Black people have been victimized because of pigmentation, hence just the color of the skin. Women are victims, just for being women. In a global world, isn't it more important to focus on the needs that concern all of us, like development, health, tolerance, energy, child care, than to blame or punish innocent people who are just what they are? As I mentioned before; you may feel horrified by same sex sexuality, but that is just one small part of the personality. He or she may be a very kind, caring and a loving person. Our world has seen gay people bringing development and entertainment, support and leadership.

 

Alan Mathison Turing, OBE, FRS(23 June 1912– 7 June 1954) was a British mathematician, logician, cryptanalyst, philosopher, computer scientist, mathematical biologist, and marathon and ultra distance runner. He was highly influential in the development of computer science, providing a formalization of the concepts of "algorithm" and "computation" with the Turing machine, which can be considered a model of a general purpose computer. Turing is widely considered as the "Fatherof Theoretical Computer Science and Artificial Intelligence. He was a homosexual man. Would it have been helpful to lock this man away or even kill him?

We have singers like Elton John, George Michael and politicians like Guide Westerwelle, the former German Vice-Chancellor, the black musician Langston Hughes and many more. Do all these people would have been better locked away?

 

If you don't want homosexual people to show their same sex affection in public, why wouldn't it be enough to just request that? If two people meet, like or love each other, and they show their attraction and love behind closed doors, wouldn't that already solve the problem you may have? Instead, now hundred thousands of men and women will grow up and live in fear, in suppression, maybe incapable of doing a great service to the nation through their creativity, their work or their support. Tourism will be affected, due to these laws keeping spending tourists away, and I am not talking about gay tourists, but ordinary straight people who value the rights of each human. Courts are used for something that is not a crime. And what about all animals caught engaging in homosexuality? We are in the 21st century, and we know that homosexuality can't be taught, passed on or grown in its quantity. The percentage of gay people is the same everywhere in an open and liberal society, as well as in a society where it is punishable. And finally this law spreads hate and aggression against innocent people. There is no rational reason to punish or blame gay men and women, unless to use them as a projection, to turn peoples attention away from the more important issues to be solved. I asked myself; where does all that hate come from?

 

Your fellow gay citizens would like to be proud of their country too. They surely want to live in peace, go to work and pay their taxes. They want to love and be loved by their family. When a child is born, you would not know its sexuality. But you will adore, love and raise the child with care and all you can give. You will kiss the child goodnight; you will be happy with the child if it succeeds at school or has made you a present. You will simply love your child. Now when it grows up and this child comes out as a lesbian or gay man ... what now? Will you suddenly reject your child, no longer love it, no longer help or feed it, no longer support it? Would you even report your child to the police, to be arrested and jailed? Could you look into the eyes of your crying child who loves you and would be there for you when you are old and in need of support from his or her salary, or just be there to help? By jailing people just for what they are, you are not just punishing the homosexual person but the entire family as well, so the suffering goes much further than within.

 

Homosexual people are not a threat and they are also African, as well as Asian and European, American and anywhere you can think of. The only difference is their attraction to the same sex, and if two of the kinds meet, like and love each other, how does that affect the heterosexual majority? And again; you may not like mangoes because the taste disgusts you. Now with a man of power, would you remove all mango trees just because you don't like them? Or wouldn't it be just better to leave them where they are, not disturbing anyone, not being forced onto your plate to eat? We all don't like certain things, but that’s life. Our human species is colorful, broad and full of different people. Isn't society even more interesting with colors than without?

 

Dear President Yoweri Museveni, there are many gay women and men in your country that can't speak out, some brave few do. One day, and I am sure, if not under your rule, the leaders of your country will realize that kindness, care and love can achieve more than hate and isolation. Hate achieves nothing and it cannot be squeezed into a form. Man cannot cut away forever what naturally grows. You can hide things and make them seemingly invisible, but they are still there all around you. I am convinced that more beauty, peace, development and love in society will grow a country better than suppressing and blaming innocent groups and communities. Please don't just think about the sexuality, think about the individual person and his or her mother, father, family and friends. Locking away one gay person punishes the several people surrounding him or her. It cuts families apart, destroys friendships, removes a great student or enthusiastic worker. Enough tears have been shed all over the world. Let’s not artificially add more problems and tears on top of what we already have to deal with.

 

I am a citizen of this world, reaching out ....

 

Yours truly


Thomas Fleckner

 

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